Forgiveness is key

As I overcome my mental health issues more each day I’m able to more clearly understand them and their root causes. In my case, it all comes back to a lack of forgiveness of self and others, and substances. I’ve developed various strategies to clear out the toxic residues of a misspent youth, and this is necessary; however, these really only address the effect and not the cause. The forgiveness work is crucial to full and permanent recovery.
When you forgive others, you forgive yourself, which enables you to receive all good things (peace, happiness, abundance, love, etc.)

Repeat: forgive others and yourself to make your life joyful.

Here is a technique I’ve developed that works for me. It’s super simple, no special meditations or movements required. Just do the following affirmations, and after each one, repeat “I totally love, forgive, and accept myself”.

  • I totally love, forgive, and accept my parents.
  • I totally love, forgive, and accept myself (repeat after each of the following).I totally love, forgive, and accept my brothers/sisters.
  • I totally love, forgive, and accept the people I went to school and college/university with.
  • I totally love, forgive, and accept my teachers.
  • I totally love, forgive, and accept all the people I live with and have lived with.
  • I totally love, forgive, and accept all the people I work with and have worked with.
  • I totally love, forgive, and accept everyone who has ever hurt me or made me feel bad about myself.
  • I totally love, forgive, and accept everyone who put me down or said mean things to me.
  • I totally love, forgive, and accept everyone who took from me without giving back.
  • I totally love, forgive, and accept everyone who ever lied to me.

Add more as required, according to inspiration. Add specific people if necessary. If any are hard to say, then that’s where your problem is. Be brave, focus on it, dig deep, find out who you need to forgive, and do it.

You can do this exercise as often as you like. Do it in the shower, sitting on the couch, walking to work, out loud or in your mind, whatever you like. It will be effective regardless.

Our fears want to survive and they will tell us whatever lies are necessary to maintain their own existence, including that forgiveness is dangerous, and that it will make us vulnerable to further pain. Don’t believe them. Forgiveness will set you free. We don’t need the false, destructive “protection” of anger, we need the liberation of forgiveness.

No-one ever meant to hurt you. They were just running a program built from their own fears, hurts, upbringing, and culture — just like all of us are. Forgive them and forgive yourself 🙂

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I like to read, write, teach, travel, code, lift weights, play music, listen to music, make things out of wood, watch scifi movies, and play board games and computer games. My interests are broad, spanning science, engineering, architecture, technology, nutrition, environment, psychology, health, fitness, finance, business, and economics, but my main passions are spirituality, space settlement, and veganism. My ambition is to be a successful writer and speaker, and to create a company to produce awesome science fiction books, movies, and games that inspire people about the future. Eventually, I would also like to create vegan cafes and urban farms.

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